Neediness, Needy People, and Getting Your Needs Met

Want is needy and will make you needy. Everyone has wants, but you have to be smart to get what you want. It can be counterintuitive and difficult to understand that to get, you must offer your value — you must give.


If your feelings of "wanting" are not disruptive to your inner-tranquility then they are likely healthy. However, excessive want is a form of desperation and a declaration of lack. Any aggressive lust lacks balance and is unwholesome and obstructive. Balance in life is the key to everything. When you focus on want, you become an endless cycle of wants. You need to focus on more than just your wants. Want is small and will make you small. Want is needy and will make you needy. Everyone has wants, but you have to be smart to get what you want. It can be counterintuitive and difficult to understand that to get, you must offer your value — you must give. You must also create a space of sanity and security within yourself for your value and strategies to take root and grow. That space of sanity is called contentment and gratitude.

You are likely the greatest obstacle to achieving your own dreams. Get out of your own way. Learn to exist gracefully and peacefully with yourself. Only inner-mastery can bring outer-mastery. Start deep within yourself and slowly build outward toward your goal. Be calm and patient with your desires. Reject the common false beliefs that you don't have much time or you will never have another opportunity. Be steady, gentle, calm, centered, focused, patient and grateful. Focus on your truthful passion, even if that passion "seems" to have no chance of bringing the worldly rewards you presently believe you want. Your wants will evolve as you grow in understanding and maturity. Be prepared to prove your passion with patience and long-suffering, or if you are wise, with long-joying. Remember that any desire is tested; the greater the desire, the greater the tests. Take action, but without attachment to any outcome. Work only as a truthful expression of your passion and not just to get.

The battle for what you want deceptively appears to be external — in the world, but it is completely an internal struggle with your mind. Success is not only in the hand; it is in the heart. Reach with all of yourself — with all of your heart, mind and passion. The struggle is beautiful. Reach for success knowing that the gift of effort is instantly yours, and that the journey is the most rewarding and fulfilling destination.

— Bryant McGill