Trust And What It Means To Me
I discuss inner trust, trust in someone else, and trust in a higher power.
What is trust?
I looked the word trust up in several different dictionaries and this is what I found:
1. To believe that someone is good and honest and will not harm you
2. That something is safe and reliable
3. Firm belief in the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing
4. Confidence or reliance
5. Something committed into the care of another
6. Reliance on something in the future; hope
If someone has trust issues it is the inner trust in oneself that has to be built, strengthened, and put to use daily. There can be no trust in someone or something else until the inner trust is in place.
So I asked myself if I believe that I am good, honest, and if I will not harm myself. In every obvious way I can readily say that I am. I'm a good person and I am honest with myself and with others. I know that I don't want to harm myself in any way, but I know that I have in ways not so obvious. I have not been taking care of myself as I should, so I am working on that one, but still I can trust myself to do the best I can and take care of myself in the best way possible in any given situation.
Then I asked myself if I am safe and reliable. This triggered more questions for me. The obvious answer is again yes, I am safe and I am reliable. I have made heaps of bad choices but I have learned from them and I know today that I can rely on myself not to make those same mistakes again. Will I make new mistakes? Sure, but I will learn from those too!
Trust in others
So do I have a firm belief in the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing. I would have to say that it depends on the situation and the person. I would do some research, I would get second opinions if I was unsure, I would find out if it is a person or product that I can trust or not.
I have also learned the hard way that relationships need to take time. In time everyone reveals their true identity. Some do it very quickly and others take a bit longer to reveal themselves to us. When they show us what they are made of I have learned to trust my instincts. If bells go off, the trust isn't there, and I do not need to pursue that relationship any longer.
Would I trust anyone with everything? Absolutely not. I trust the engineer to help me with his or her area of expertise. I trust the universe to provide. I trust my best friend with my innermost thoughts and feelings, but I know that my best friend can't build anything. I trust a carpenter to do that or maybe a friend who has proven his or her abilities.
That is why we all need each other. We all have our own unique areas of expertise and as we do our own thing we can become excellent and help others with what they need as they can help us with what they do best. Everyone is in need of help sometimes and everyone can help someone else, too.
So I trust that the world becomes better for every person that decides to do his or her best using their passion and their willingness to help make the world a better place. We do it together, one person at a time, and it starts with me, right now!
Trust in a higher power
Some call it the universe, others call it God, Angels, spirits, science, or another belief system altogether, but most believe in some kind of a higher power. How our trust in this power, our place in the scheme of things, determine our sense of trust in the world.
I have been thinking a lot about my place in the greater perspective. I had a really firm belief in God as I grew up and then I saw so much that I could not believe in. I do not believe that God would want to scare anyone into doing anything. So I rebelled against it in a very private way. I never made waves in the establishment until they hurt my children and then I took them out of there and left never to return.
The sad part was seeing that people were not who I thought they were. Those who I believed were my friends weren't either. So I have a hard time trusting any person with my soul. My beliefs are between me and my higher power. No one has the right to tell me what to believe or what to do with my faith.
I still have an unwavering belief in love, in all that is good, pure, and brings joy. I have a faith in the goodness of people and the need to live a life full of random acts of kindness as a lifestyle. I believe that the world will be a better place if we all do what we can, to help each other.
This disqualifies me in certain circles and it opens up others. If I am to be true to myself and to my heart, I need to put all my energy into what I believe, what I trust is the right path for me and the best decisions for my children. So I will. The people that fall away as I do? I wish them well.